our sex doesnt last THAT long..id say 30 minutes, including foreplay for 10..which is making out/oral. if you are new to sex..as in first year still..then its normal..i was super sore my first 6 months of having sex..the guy i lost my v card to was pretty huge too.
lately our sex starts by us being silly..like teasing each other or tickling each other…or like yesterday we showered together and i was like “im gonna shave my cat so you can eat it” and hes like “ok. ill do my dick/balls too”..and we had sex last night.
so i guess some of it is planned now that we’ve been together over a year..and sometimes it’s spontaneous. i find the longer we go without it, the better it is when we do have sex..so maybe be more..idk..uninterested in it for a bit, let it happen naturally..and it will be a lot better that way. although when you go a week, it’s usually easy for the guy to come within 5 minutes..my bf does this, but he doesnt have a refractory period..meaning he stays hard and can continue fucking me til he cums again 20 minutes later….i guess i got lucky lol
i dbout this helped.